this moment.

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A Friday ritual. A single photo – no words- capturing a moment from the week. A simple, special, extraordinary moment. A moment I want to pause, savor and remember. If you’re inspired to do the same, leave a link to your ‘moment’ in the comments for all to find and see.

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this moment.

{this moment}

A Friday ritual. A single photo – no words A few words- capturing a moment from the week. A simple, special, extraordinary moment. A moment I want to pause, savor and remember.
If you’re inspired to do the same, leave a link to your ‘moment’ in the comments for all to find and see.

We know it’s against the rules, but we HAVE to say just a few words about this photo!

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Most of us in Rochester, NY are aware that George Eastman had a significant hand in shaping and supporting our community. A generous and purposeful philanthropist, Eastman kept a legendary “oak box” of charities that he gave financial support to. This box, on permanent display at The George Eastman House, has hand-written index-cards for each organization he contributed to, with the dates and dollar amounts. SPCC (formerly known as Society for Prevention of Cruelty to Children) has a card in that box. With a little digging, we discovered that George Eastman was actively involved in collaborating with SPCC. One of the partnerships involved Eastman providing some dentistry and medical services for children in the agency’s care.

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(taken from the New York State Probation Commission’s 14th Annual Report, 1920)

The Wholehearted Parenting Manifesto

An oldie but a goodie. Brene Brown writes from the heart of parenting.

The Wholehearted Parenting Manifesto
Brene Brown

Above all else, I want you to know that you are loved and lovable. You will learn this from my words and actions–the lessons on love are in how I treat you and how I treat myself.

I want you to engage with the world from a place of worthiness. You will learn that you are worthy of love, belonging, and joy every time you see me practice self-compassion and embrace my own imperfections.

We will practice courage in our family by showing up, letting ourselves be seen, and honoring vulnerability. We will share our stories of struggle and strength. There will always be room in our home for both.

We will teach you compassion by practicing compassion with ourselves first; then with each other. We will set and respect boundaries; we will honor hard work, hope, and perseverance. Rest and play will be family values, as well as family practices.

You will learn accountability and respect by watching me make mistakes and make amends, and by watching how I ask for what I need and talk about how I feel.

I want you to know joy, so together we will practice gratitude.

I want you to feel joy, so together we will learn how to be vulnerable.

When uncertainty and scarcity visit, you will be able to draw from the spirit that is a part of our everyday life.

Together we will cry and face fear and grief. I will want to take away your pain, but instead I will sit with you and teach you how to feel it.

We will laugh and sing and dance and create. We will always have permission to be ourselves with each other. No matter what, you will always belong here.

As you begin your Wholehearted journey, the greatest gift that I can give to you is to live and love with my whole heart and to dare greatly.

I will not teach or love or show you anything perfectly, but I will let you see me, and I will always hold sacred the gift of seeing you. Truly, deeply, seeing you.

http://www.brenebrown.com

Serving Young Parents & Young Children with Commitment and Skill

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Megan & her sweet baby Aubri

Megan Rundle, MS:

Serving Young Parents and Young Children with Commitment & Skill

By: Sarah Fitzgibbons & Laurie Valentine

Recently we realized that although we have many extraordinary staff we don’t slow down often enough to highlight their skills and contributions to SPCC and the community. We would like to start taking the time to do this more regularly. As a start, SPCC would like to highlight one of our counselors in our Building Healthy Children (BHC) program.  Although she is preparing to leave SPCC due to a shift in funding, Megan Rundle, MS truly exemplifies the passion, commitment, skill and energy that SPCC often brings to our relationships with families.

Megan was inspired to join the field of human service because of her own mother’s work as a passionate school counselor. She describes her mother as a “great role model who showed me the difference I could make in kids lives”. Megan quickly found her academic and career path, earning a Master’s Degree in counseling. Starting in 2008, Megan completed two internships in two different programs at SPCC during her Master’s program, and after she graduated, Building Healthy Children program snapped her right up for employment!

In describing her experience at SPCC and her professional growth during her time at the agency, Megan had this to say:

 I have had an incredible learning experience at SPCC. Over the past five years, I have learned so much about the field of clinical work, and about myself. I feel incredibly lucky that through my work with children and families, I have learned so much about being a good parent. I learned the important nuts and bolts of parenting through the models we use (Incredible Years and Parents as Teachers) but I learned the heart of parenting through my work with families. I have seen such strength in the girls I work with. They face so many barriers and obstacles to their goals of success, but time and time again make caring and loving their children a priority.

There are many things about Megan that SPCC and our clients will miss. Staff at SPCC are eager to describe all of the wonderful things that Megan does and is in her professional role. Supervisors, colleagues, community professionals and clients describe her as approachable, having a strong and passionate work ethic, committed and passionate. They speak often of her professionalism, reliability, and her seemingly never-ending energy and willingness to say “YES!”.

Megan’s willingness to say “yes”, and go above and beyond in donating her skills and time is exemplary. As she faced the difficult task of saying goodbye to her clients, colleagues and agency, she also donated countless hours of skill in other programs at SPCC, in addition to her job responsibilities in Building Healthy Children.  Megan often jokes that she needs an assistant to hold her “yes, I will volunteer” arm down in meetings as her passion keeps motivating her to assist in everything client related! “I donate extra time because I truly have passion for the families that we work with, and try to keep a focus on them”, Megan says. “A little bit of extra work or time can make all the difference”. Megan worked extra hours in SPCC’s Supervised Visitation Program this summer, supervised by Lisa D’Orsi.  Lisa shared, “I was so impressed with Megan’s willingness to help another program. She jumped right in to her work here, and I knew that both visits were in great hands. One of the family’s Megan worked with included a very active, young boy with developmental delays; Megan was patient, kind and supportive to the whole family. We have been so grateful for Megan’s commitment to teamwork!”

Anyone who is in the field of clinical work knows that saying goodbye is a complex and challenging process for the clinician and the client. As she prepares to leave, Megan has had to say goodbye to all of the families on her case load. Because so many of the young parents she works with have experienced extreme loss in their lives, Megan worked hard to facilitate a ‘healthy goodbye’ process for each of them- some young women have seen Megan in their homes every week for three years. She says, “Saying goodbye to all of my clients has been one of the hardest things I have faced in my career”. Megan points out that some of the young women have not even been able to meet with her after hearing the news, “I know that for some of them, saying goodbye is just too hard”.

In wrapping up her time at SPCC and her current work with young parents and children, Megan wants her clients will hold on to what Megan believes in her heart:

You have what it takes to achieve your goals and dreams. 

Even though life can get in the way at times, keep pushing and you will get there.

At times, you will lose sight of your goals.  Do not see this as a failure. See it just as a speed bump.  It is never too late to get back on track.

Hold on to the idea that your children are the most important thing in your life.  Yes, they may be challenging and frustrating at times (and don’t feel guilty on the days you want to run away!), but remember that you will never get this time back with them.

The most important person you can impact is your child. And this is a powerful, powerful thing.

 Please join us in celebrating all that Megan Rundle has done and been to SPCC, the community, and to the Building Healthy Children program. Her grace, commitment, skill and passion are irreplaceable. We wish her the best.

this moment.

{this moment}

A Friday ritual. A single photo – no words – capturing a moment from the week. A simple, special, extraordinary moment. A moment we want to pause, savor and remember. 
If you’re inspired to do the same, leave a link to your ‘moment’ in the comments for all to find and see.

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From “Chaos and Turmoil”… to Peace and Success

  From “Chaos and Turmoil”… to Peace and Success

A Mother recollects the impact of SPCC’s Family Trauma services with Hilda Saltos, LCSW, almost 10 years later.

Hello! My name is Marthenia. I have two sons – Tahmir & Jaelin. I’d like to give a brief overview of how my family became involved with SPCC. In 2004, I was married with two young children. However, our home was not a happy one. It was filled with chaos and turmoil. Needless to say, I had to make a decision. I could continue living this way and let it have a negative effect on my children or I could do something about it. I was definitely at a crossroad in my life. My ultimate decision was to proceed with divorce. Once I began the process and began attending court, “things” took a turn for the worse. My children and I felt trapped!

After attending one of MANY court appearances, a law guardian for the children asked if I would like a referral to SPCC. He explained to me what SPCC would do to help my children and me. I agreed, and about a week later I met with Hilda Saltos. The rest was history! Hilda was very understanding, helpful and kind. She was very instrumental (yet non-judgmental) in assisting me with referrals and advice which enabled me to move forward.

Fast forward…it is now 2013. My children and I are blessed to be living happy, peaceful and successful lives. We own our own home, and I am now working as a licensed practical nurse. Both Tahmir and Jaelin have a strong interest in art. Both are also honor roll students, with excellent attendance and a bright future ahead! We are very thankful to have met Hilda and been able to utilize the services of SPCC!

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Tahmir’s Art Work                        Jaelin’s Art Work